I chased guys that were emotionally unavailable. I was drawn to friendships that required I play the role of fixer, saver, advisor. I never could speak up without either crumbling or lashing out. I
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Archives for October 2020
Sometimes love looks like…
The path of loving oneself, and others, isn’t one free of pain. We are sold this lie, but it isn’t true.
Often returning to your true self is a path of love that consists of doing things you have
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Boundaries are not…
Always, always, always check your motive before communicating a boundary. Ask, “am I trying to change them? Hurt them? Prove a point?” If so, it’s best to hold off. Sleep on it. Chat with a safe
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Sibling Conflict
I’ve been thinking a lot about inner child work as it relates to parenting + more specifically, sibling conflict. My older girls are 3 + 4 so I’ve had my fair share of practice when it comes to
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Secure Attachment
I was chatting with a new mama friend last week + she admitted to me that her two year old daughter was still sleeping in her bed. I could feel her reservation; worried I would judge her. I smiled,
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Not apologies…
I grew up never hearing “I’m sorry.” I would however, hear “you’re being sensitive, too emotional, and we are only joking.”
I never took my feelings or thoughts serious. I didn’t trust how I felt
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Tips on fighting fair
It is a disservice to our children to not “fight fair” in front of them. Children can feel when the energy is not quite right. They can sense when mom is upset with daddy, again, or when tension is
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Affection isn’t just physical
Let’s remember this, when we try to get our children to hug or open up or to be more social/outgoing.
I had some questions today come in regarding when/if it’s appropriate to encourage a child to hug
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No child…
A little twist on Debi Pearl’s original quote regarding a husband + wife...
Children never become “better” when we criticize them. Actually, no one does. We grow + feel motivated to change when we
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