Almost ten years ago, I began seeing a therapist. I knew I had a problem with alcohol, but I didn’t know a thing about being codependent.
He asked me a simple question. A question that
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Archives for October 2020
Boundary violations
What do I do when someone disrespects my boundary? This is the most common question I receive... and since many aren’t well versed in boundary work, most people do not
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Examples of Holiday Boundaries with Family
This time of year is extremely challenging for many, especially those with children. It’s hard to even know what your boundary is, let alone communicate it and then
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Boundaries 101 (revisited)
Does the holiday season + just the thought of spending more time with extended have you feeling overwhelmed + anxious already? Wondering how you’ll communicate your needs
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Without enabling…
I laid there, staring up at the white ceiling, noises of women detoxing + moaning, nurses darting around offering care, the tv hung high blaring some talk show in the
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Note to self
If you grew up with love, safety or affection that was dangled like a 🥕 ... easily withheld or rewarded or unavailable for whatever reason— you may feel this “working to
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Being afraid of feelings
I spent many years trying to numb my feelings, then many years after that trying to un numb, trust myself + learn how to feel again. I’m still a work in progress. (Check
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I knew I was healing when…
We think we suffer from anxiety. Depression. Shame. We think we are over worked. Under appreciated. Stressed. The truth is, we are recovering from an old conditioning
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Growth happens when…
I remember calling my mother years ago, hoping she would listen. I desperately wanted her to tell me she was proud of me. I needed her to understand my needs, and honor
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Your closest friends should…
One of my greatest discoveries was that I could pick who I gave my time + energy to. Up until just a few years ago, I really didn’t feel I had a choice. Your closest
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