Almost ten years ago, I began seeing a therapist. I knew I had a problem with alcohol, but I didn’t know a thing about being codependent.
He asked me a simple question. A question that
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Archives for May 2020
Unsafe People vs Safe People
Safe People intimidated me at first. I also thought they were boring #confession. They didn’t cater to my gossiping, nor did they get a high off of the confusion or
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Pain Threshold
I always thought I was the stronger one. The bullet proof one. The one who could be lit on fire without blinking. I always thought I saw the best in people... this was my
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Tools to shift into a Secure Attachment Style
This about sums up the work I’ve engaged in for the last five years. Hardest for me was learning how to lean into Safe People to practice being more vulnerable + rebuild
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Secure Attachment Style
The Secure Attachment style usually stems from a child who is able to express needs very early on, and learned to trust that her caregiver would respond appropriately +
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Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
The Dismissive Avoidant tends to stem from a child who had a parent that was usually considered successful, self sufficient, with rigid boundaries + an inability to bond.
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Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
The Fearful Avoidant attachment usually stems from a child who lacked bonding with a parent or caregiver, and therefore fears any bonds of the future. They aren’t able to
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Anxious Attachment Style
This week I want to cover a series on Attachment Styles. You’ll read a lot on this in romantic relationships, however I don’t feel it is covered enough from the viewpoint
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Let them…
I won’t always get it right. Most days, I still mess up. They see me yell, they watch me make mistakes, they witness my heartache + uncertainty. But they see so much more
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Safety mode
I’ve shared a lot this week on the importance of returning to the body. The body responds faster than our minds do to stimulus, and so it only makes sense that we listen
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